I receive emails and requests for discovery calls from you, my community. In these emails and discovery calls, I hear all about you. Your trials. Your issues. Your pain. Your abuse. Your hopes. Your dreams. And at the end of it, there is always an excuse why you can’t create that life, that dream. It saddens me. It saddens me more than I can possibly convey. And I ask God, what can I do? How can I get through to them? “Wake them up”, I heard, “wake them up”.

Here it comes.


We sit and we meditate and we pray and we visualize. We repeat mantras and ring bells and bowls and sage our homes. We cut out pictures and put them on our vision board and try to think only “happy thoughts.” When very little changes, we go the route of cleansing and clearing blocks but with not much more success. And all the while sitting at home on our sofa, expecting the Universe to show up at our door with everything we want ready to hand it over to us with a smile and no effort on our part whatsoever.




Do you honestly believe God created you to sit on your butt in a lotus position and pray for the life, business, relationship, or health you desire without doing anything to make it happen? Do you?


No one is going to come knocking on your door with a bag of cash, the man/woman of your dreams and perfect health.




You were created to experience life. And experiencing comes through ACTION. Not the frantic, throw spitballs on the wall and see what sticks kind of action. That’s a recipe for a breakdown. No, inspired action. As in inspired by God/Source/Universe.


One of my mentors says, “Spirit meets us at the point of our action.” Divine guidance is always, always going to require you to DO something. Why? Because that’s why you’re here! Otherwise, what is the point? You could have just stayed in the ethers as a disembodied soul–no action required there.


But that’s not what your soul wanted and do you know how I know that? Because you’re HERE! ON EARTH! IN A BODY!


Stop making excuses for why you don’t have the life that you want. You have the life you have because you CHOSE it! Every choice in your life led you to where you are. Take responsibility for it and stop playing the victim. Victims cannot change their lives–they have no power. Only those that take 100% responsibility for their lives and choices can change it. Why? Because you cannot change something if you have no ownership of it and victims relinquish ownership of their lives to chance.


Is that what you want? To let chance decide what kind of life you get to live?


We medicate ourselves into compliance of the status quo. Numbing ourselves with anti-depressants so we don’t feel anything–so we don’t feel the pain of unexpressed potential. Our soul is knocking on the door of our hearts inviting us to wake up and see the truth and we hide from it, afraid of upsetting the apple cart, of being different, of taking a chance. We live our lives self medicating with shopping, drugs, alcohol, tv, sex or what have you, in an effort to distract ourselves from the pain of not being our true selves and not living our purpose.


I was once where you are. On anti-depressants and miserable. Shopping and eating to stop myself from feeling the pain of not being my true self. Going out for cocktails with friends so I could pretend I was ok while inside I was dying a slow, painful death. And I had caused this. Self betrayal is a painful space to live from. My soul was calling and I pretended I didn’t hear it–until a near death experience brought me to my knees, to surrender.


Is that what it will take for you to stop settling?


This life is a gift. It is an opportunity to be fully expressed as the Divine in a body here on earth. To Experience Life. Feel Emotions. Take Action.


Stop wasting time with excuses:


I don’t know how.
I don’t have the money.
It’s too hard.
I’m lazy
What if I take a chance and end up worse off than I was before?
I don’t want to look within myself that way.
What will my ___ think of me?


And start asking better questions:


Show me the way, Universe.
What is my next step?
How can I love myself more?
Who do I need to be to create that life?
What am I being called to learn here?


Asking yourself better questions will start you down the path to creating the life YOU came here to experience.  The life that you TRULY  want.


Do you want to stay miserable, hating life, scared to step up and jealous of other people who are knocking it out of the park while you stay home and sit on your ass staring at your vision board?


Or are you ready to commit to being who your soul came here to be, rockin’ it out and creating the life YOU want to live regardless of what other people think?


There are no guarantees. No sure things. And the road will be rocky. But I will take that over living life as a zombie, numb to what I’m feeling and distracting myself with self destructive habits to drown out the call of my soul.


Make a Decision. Choose. But stop deluding yourself that you are doing all you can to create a better life for yourself. Because you’re not. And we both know it.


There are no regrets when you’re dead. Life is for the living. Live NOW.